Today is my birthday.
Seriously though. I must be honest and say that I do love surprises but the modest side of me always takes over and I hate for anyone to go to a lot of trouble just because it is the anniversary of my birth. When it comes to the working side of “Tom”, you will see a confident and skillful man but behind closed doors, a very different man altogether. A man who is happy to spend his birthday by the side of those he loves.
Each year, I do a sort of “self diagnosis” on my life. Where I’ve been, where I am now and where I’m going.
I’ve spoken to many people who actually get frightened at the thought of growing older. My outlook is simple:
What have I achieved in the last twelve months?
Have I moved towards my ultimate goals in life?
Am I happy?
If I can answer the first question well and say Yes to the next two, then I will always be a happy man on my birthday.
As it happens, I can answer the questions as follows:
(1) What have I achieved in the last twelve months?
I have achieved a lot despite suffering from the after effects of bacterial meningitis. I moved from full time work to full time coaching. I am the co-director of a company with my fiancee that is looking very promising and we haven’t even seen our first show yet. I am the co-director of a non-industry company with my friend and mentor, Mark Westbrook. A company that could yield us great returns. I have written a lot this past year and my writing is slowly starting to get attention. Plays, screenplays and shorts: my brain is not slowing down. I have blogged successfully every day for the last year or so, not an easy task by anyone’s standards.
(2)Have I moved towards my ultimate goals in life?
Yes, I have. There is no doubt of it. I left home to try and build a strong and successful life and I am definitely on the way to that.
(3) Am I happy?
Yes, I am happy. Depression struck me down after the meningitis and it still hits me some days but I am happy. I am doing what I love, I am surrounded by people that I love and I am happy.
When I wake every morning on my birthday, I do this little diagnostic.
This year, I have done well.
Happy birthday to you if it is also your birthday! Celebrate the day in style!
Onward to glory.